Days spent in the mall where you feel like you need a Zanex and a martini to get through it... Nights you lay sleepless worrying about the much too sexy outfit she is going to wear tomorrow... Moments when you are fighting about clothing choices and you wish you had a son...
If you are celebrating today with a special afternoon of shopping it might just go something like this.
You imagine her loving everything you pick out just like she did when you went shopping at Gap Kids and Gymboree!
Instead she looks at you like you are out of your mind thinking that she would wear anything you suggest...
You imagine bonding over a nice lunch, ice cream cones, and a pedicure!
Instead she barely talks you because she is much to busy texting, Facebooking, Instagraming, Tumblring, Tweeting, etc...
You imagine getting matching outfits at the mall like you did for that Glamour Shot you did when she was 7!
Instead she can barely speak to you or look at you because she is furious that you are making her shop at the mall with you...
She wants to buy these!
You don't understand why she thinks these great 9" shorts are "uncool"...
She loves this tank top and is eagerly expecting you to buy it for her!
You wish she still had the fashion sense and style she did when she was 7...
She thinks that she must have this dress for the next formal dance!
You think her group photo from the prom this year should have resembled something like this. No boys, no boobs, just bibles...
This is the swimsuit she wants for the "end of school, beginning of summer" celebration on her friends boat!
You feel this swimsuit is much more practical and appropriate for the occasion...
Recently a woman just couldn't take it anymore and wrote this opinion that was published in the Star Tribune of Minneapolis.
I was asked to comment on it by local a news station, you can link up to that interview and podcast here.
But I want to know what you have to say on this issue. If you are a mother or a daughter let's hear your comments and suggestion on how to survive this phase of adolescence and still be on speaking terms. Don't forget, if you need a mediator in the mall I'm your gal. Email me at lindsey@fashionfixmn.com for personal shopping appointments!
2 comments:
The extremes do make for good laugh lines, but my three daughters and I really do want to understand each other's desires and come to a meeting of the minds. Pretty, tasteful, stylish, flattering, affordable, comfortable. It is so much to ask from one dress/swimsuit/pant/shoe. I wish the designers of big girl and tween clothing would help us out a little bit. As each daughter has grown out of 6x, we have grieved that designers of children's clothing (probably 20-somethings) apparently think 7 land 8 year olds want to dress like 16 year olds. They don't. My twelve year olds doesn't. They want to be pretty, not trashy/sexy. Lands End has been a help to us in the swim suit department. Surprisingly, Justice, the store I love to hate, has a few cute, modest swimsuits as well. In addition, their underwear selection offers comfortable, beige panties without elastic legs and waists (integrated) for wearing under white shorts. Their bra selection and camisoles for tweens is helpful too. These are the only things I buy at Justice. In and out, before the music and chaos drives me mad.
I love knowing what your specific frustrations are and what stores are a hit and a miss. I am working towards making more of an impact on this issue by addressing teens in fashion workshop this summer. We will talk about style, taste, and age appropriate fashion. Stay tuned because the talk will be available on YouTube before we hit 'back to school' shopping.
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